I'm still feeling sick and trying to push through everything and it had been my intention to just take a break from posting once I ran out of pre-written posts until I could get better. Unfortunately, some cricumstances have caused me to need to write this post up. These circumstances involve a very small minority group of my readers, but sadly I need to make my statement public. So I appologize to my readers who do not act in this manner. I don't mean to incriminate you with the rest.
Those of you who aren't in the minority group and don't follow me on Twitter (where I have mini-ranted about this before), likely don't know what I'm talking about. I'm talking about the trolls and flamers. Sure, I don't get many, not nearly as many as more well-read blogs, but recently I've been getting more and more. And in a strange way, they all seem to be using the same tactic to piss me off: They come at me through the people I love and then use me to hurt those same people.
In multiple incidents I have been forced to deal with people who, for some strange reason or another, get very angry at either Rob the Breeder, me, or both of us. They get it in their heads that they are entitled to much more interaction with us than we have time to give, or are simply crazy and rude. Either way, the result has frequently been the same. They gather up their hatred and use it to attempt to split Rob and me apart.
The worst part is that this has all happened when I'm dealing with fevers and illness, so they immediately latch on to my sickness and use it for evidence that Rob has given me HIV, or they subtly hint to that fact (it isn't really that subtle, but they think so). When someone who is actually worried about me suggests HIV, I respectfully tell them what I tell every and what I will now put on my blog for all to read: I tested negative for HIV and a few other STDs on June 1st of this year. I have nothing to worry about, and I'm not concerned with contracting from Rob anyway. He tests negative as regularly as I do and we are both tops now, which protects us from most of the ways one contracts the virus.
Most people I tell this to stop asking or take my word for it. But these guys don't. They'll give me lines like, "It can incubate for years," or "You can never be totally sure of a guy's status." Both are valid points, but that is also a risk I have chosen to live with in my life. If you have a problem with that, then why are you reading either of our blogs? They also will try to get me to give them information of Rob's personal life and his family. As if I were going to tell them terrible things about Rob to satisfy their hatred.
The things that amazes me is that they don't even think that maybe I would be more loyal to a man I know (and who I have confessed my love for multiple times) than to a stranger I just met online. And they also seem to think that Rob and I don't still talk to each other. We do. Frequently. Maybe not daily, but close. We are very good friends and nothing a stranger can say is going to break that apart.
I am getting sick of dealing with it and sick of being villianized for protecting someone I love from attack. So I'm writing this post to let anyone thinking about doing such a thing know that it isn't going to happen. Don't even try. Rob and I will shut you down quicker than you can try to backtrack and talk your way out. And I know that I will personally block you on whatever means of communication you contact me on: be it Twitter, Facebook, blog comments, or emails. I don't deserve that kind of disrespect and I won't put up with it.
Thank you to the many, many readers who are all sane and just read this blog for the sake of reading it. You guys are what keep me going and I love hearing from you and replying to your comments and emails. Thanks.