Hello, everyone! I'm doing something a little different today. A while back I promised to give out some tips on good cocksucking and then I never followed through with it. I blame school, mono, and a general sense of laziness on my part for this. But here it finally is: Cocksucking 101. This is not going to be just a one-time post because, to be perfectly honest, there is a lot that can be done with just a blow job. They aren't as simple as many people think. But they don't have to be a crazy ordeal either. All of these tips should be good for both men and women, so to all my lady readers, take notes too.
The Golden Rule
I would say that the most important thing you have to learn to be a good cocksucker is to honestly love cock. Too many people see a blow job as a chore or a means to an end. This is so wrong. A blow job should never feel like something you HAVE to give. It should be something you WANT to give. Why would you want to? Well, take a look at the cock (any cock) and just examine it. Doesn't it look beautiful? It should.
Every cock is a work of art and every cock is uniquely beautiful. I don't mean this in the lame way that we say every child is special and different. I mean to say that every cock is a perfect cock. Is it a little shorter that average? Who cares! Isn't the shape attractive? Look at the hardness, how it sticks out from the pelvis. The ridges and veins and the way it mushrooms out at the head. The piss-slit that will be gifting you the seed. The base where the skin spreads out and down to the balls.
If none of that turned you on or made you understand the beauty of the cock, then you aren't going to give a good blow job. A blow job is as much about worshiping a cock as it is simply applying pressure to pleasure sensors.
Careful With Those Teeth
I'm always sure that this one goes without saying until someone giving me a blow job scrapes me and shows that they clearly need it to be said. I'll be honest with you, by the time I was ten I already knew how to hold my lips to prevent my teeth from brushing a cock. You can thank porn and a friend's older sister with little concept of proper dinner manners for that. But not everyone is as lucky as me, I guess. Anyway, the correct way to avoid is to open your mouth up and roll your lips under the teeth. Do that and you don't have to worry at all.
Of course, those of you who are already more advanced will know that you don't always have to cover your teeth like that. In fact, if done well, a little bit of teeth can feel really good. But this is not a liscence to simply scrub the skin off his dick with your two front teeth, and we shouldn't be able to judge your overbite by marks on his shaft. So, while a little tug on the foreskin or a little nibbling is fine, chomping is not allowed.
And you will run in to guys who are just very thick and make it hard not to scrape teeth. Likely these guys are aware that their size makes it difficult. The best thing to do is go slow at first and teach your mouth how to take it before getting a good rhythm. You will probably need breaks from straight sucking though to allow your jaw some time closed. If you get too tired you can always turn a good blow job into a great fuck.
Same With That Hand
Like with teeth, a hand can be an added pleasure or a terrifying pain during a blow job. A good cocksucker knows how to slick a cock with spit and rub it around with a hand while working on sucking just the head. The dual stimulation can feel really great for the receiver. A second hand can also be used to rub the body, touching sensitive areas. Areas to focus on are the lower back erogenous zone, the nipples, the stomach area around the navel, the balls, the taint/perineum, and of course the anus. Gentle touching mixed with rough is always great, depending on the preference of the receiver.
But when rough touching happens, it should be kept away from the genitals. In fact, rough play of any kind should be kept away unless you are skilled at sadism and pain/pleasure play. To demonstrate why, I will give an example: One time I was getting a blow job from a guy who was not new to sex with men. He was very active in his oral assertions and was using a hand on the lower half of my cock, rubbing it hard. After this had gone on for a while I felt a sharp pain on the shaft of my penis and immediately pushed him off. In his efforts to get me to cum, he had scraped skin off the underside of my cock, and I was sore and unable to jerk off, much less fuck, for almost a week. I was very pissed off.
So it is important to be aware of where your hands are and what they are doing. Hands can be great if they are used properly. But when someone who doesn't have a good sense of limits starts doing it, things can get nasty.
A good idea if you have time to plan ahead, is to figure out how you will be most comfortable during the blow job. For example, if you're apartment is made of all hardwood floors, you may want to invest in some pads to kneel on. They can be anything from a pillow to the knee pads that look like something you would wear on a skateboard. Likewise, if you don't want to spend too much time on your knees, you'll have to make sure you perform in a place where you can easily change positions to sitting, leaning, laying down, whatever. The easy choice for this would be the bed or couch, but other things can be made too. The idea is to be as comfortable as possible so that you can work the cock for as long as you need. You'll enjoy giving the blow job much more if you aren't constantly struggling to keep the blood flowing to your feet.
Here comes the part that will possibly get me some angry comments, but it is honest. You should always swallow when giving a blow job. I'm not even going to pretend like it is a politeness issue. Honestly, when we start talking about manners in sex we are getting ourselves into some annoyingly uncomfortable territory. No, no one is going to think you're the rude sister at the dinner table who can't stop dribbling food on her blouse. That's not the issue at all.
The issue is that the cum is a gift to you. Not even in just a metaphysical, worship-the-seed-of-life way, though that is there too. The cum is a gift, a reward, for a job well done. Think about it: You just spent all that time on you knees, your back, your head, whatever, trying to get this man to cum using your oral skills. Are you then going to just causally spit the fruits of your labor to the ground? Does that seem right? I mean, you are essentially trashing the result you were attempting to get by blowing him in the first place. What's the point in that?
Sure, there is a risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease. But you know what is the best way to solve that problem? Only have sex with guys you trust to not get an STD from. If you are careful, you won't get anything. I personally am not a fan of serosorting partners, but I know some people are very picky about who they have sex with. On top of all that, there is also the fact that some STDs are spread by topical contact, not in the seminal fluids, and others can be just as easily spread in pre-cum as in cum. And there is no sense in you avoiding swallowing that cum when you've been slurping down pre-cum the who time. As for blowing a guy with a condom on, I won't even entertain that thought. I've done it, I've had it done, and I don't recommend it. The condoms taste like crap even when they have a flavor, and the receiver feels singnificantly less of the sensations that he would be after in a blow job anyway. Why waste everyone's time like that? It is much easier to forget about your worries and swallow that cum.
That's all the advice and guidelines I have for you today. I'll make another post soon continuing the "class" on cocksucking. I hope this was helpful, and feel free to leave questions in the comments or in an email.