The good news is, I've been getting relatively more sleep recently than I was at the start of the week. In fact, my weekend has actually been very nice so far. From spending time with a loved one on his birthday to hanging out with some sexy bears in a local band last night, I have had a lot of fun. I certainly have been smiling more than frowning, and that is always a good sign.
With that, on to the questions. I'm going to start off today's post with a few that I received in my email before diving in to my Formspring account (both places where you can ask me anything). I honestly answer all questions that are too personal or insulting.
Have you even been in a 3-some where you were in the middle and gotten fucked while you were fucking someone else.
No, I have never been in the middle of a three-some. The closest I have come to that is getting my ass played with while I was fucking someone else. Or wearing a butt plug while fucking. But I've never been the meat of the sandwich.
What is your favorite type of foreplay?
It really would depend on my mood and the person I am with. Cuddling is great foreplay for me, but is just as likely to lead to me falling asleep if I'm not well-rested. I love kissing and am considered a great kisser. When I'm match with another skilled kisser, I'm guaranteed to get hard. I can get hard watching kissing.
What is your favorite position to fuck in?
I'm a fan of "Splitting the Bamboo" especially when the guy is rolled more onto the side of the bottom leg.
What is your favorite position to bottom in (I know you don't bottom much anymore)?
Doggy or laying face down is good these days because it hurts less. When I was a power bottom, I was also pretty flexible, so I got in some pretty fun positions with my legs up by my ears.
Do you use a cock ring and if yes, what kind?
I do. Mine is of the leather strap that snaps variety, which I like a lot except you have to be very careful about catching your pubes in it. Still, I like being able to control how tight it is without worrying about if it will get stuck.
What toys do you like to use? Do you use them on yourself, or your partner?
I love toys of all kinds. Nipple clamps, dildos, butt plugs, paddles, all are good. I love when a bottom wants me to work their hole over with some toys before I fuck them. Gets me hot and in the mood.
Now for some Formspring:
When you don't have the energy to do something, what do you use to motivate yourself?
Generally I use food as a motivation tool. Like if I finish I'll give myself a treat. Sometimes that doesn't work though. I've had papers or something I had to write where I was so unmotivated that I was struggling to write a paragraph at a time, each paragraph rewarded by one cute puppy or kitten video on YouTube.
In an ideal relationship, what would you spend the majority of your time doing?
Do you mean as a couple? Because in an ideal relationship I would spend most of my personal time doing what I do now: reading, writing, and watching movies. As a couple I guess chatting and touching. I like it when you are with someone so much that you stop noticing you are touching, only when you stop.
Age wise, what do you consider old?
I can't even see it as being an age thing. I know a guy who is 62, looks like he's in his 40s, and acts like he is even younger. And I know people who are in their 30s and act like they're dying. It really depends on a lot of things. There's not set age where I could say, "Dude's freaking old." Though 80 seems to be a pretty good cut-off. But I'm sure some day I'll meet a spritely 80 year old and be proven wrong.
What is your opinion on armpit hair?
Love it. I don't need a guy to have it, but I love when he does. And I really hate when I lift up a guy's arm and see a rash from shaving. As a former competitive swimmer who used to regularly shave his armpits, I have to say: Learn how to shave it right.
Would you give a homeless person CPR if they were dying?
Hmmm...My answer to this is complex. I would say yes, because I know how and I wouldn't want to let my neglect be the cause of any kind of death. However, I'm no longer certified to perform CPR, so really someone who is should do it. If there is a certified person around, they should do it. Other than that, I don't see why not.
What's your leather collection like and what would you like to get next?
I don't have a lot because leather is expensive and I'm just a graduate student who only ever had time to work in the summers. I have two harnesses (my favorite is the one at the top of my blog), two boots, pants, a vest, and three wrist gauntlets. I also have a leather cock ring. For my next leather purchase, I'd like to save my money for a good pair of chaps.
What was your worse date? with who? and what made it so bad?
I don't really have any bad date stories. I usually don't go on a date with anyone who doesn't have anything in common with me, and I'm really good at talking and making conversation progress. A date with me is usually very enjoyable even if I never go on a date with you again.
Have you ever had sex with a "straight" guy?
I've had sex with plenty of straight guys, minus the sarcastic quotes. I don't understand the assumption some people make that straight guys can't have gay sex and still be straight. It fits in line with the dumb assumption that bisexuality doesn't exist. As someone who has had plenty of unromantic sex, I can tell you that sex doesn't require you to be romantically attracted to the one you're with. Just because a guy doesn't want to develop a relationship with the male gender he isn't then prohibited from having sex with that gender. That's a strangely ignorant thought that has hung on into these supposedly more sexually free times.
That's all for this week. I look forward to answering more soon.